Monday, July 12, 2010


My poor baby boy has nightmares and I wish I knew how to resolve them.

I guess that's part of the adoption experience - side effects you never thought of before. And with us bringing Mac home at 10 months we thought we would avoid so many of the adoption-related issues. But we were wrong.

During nap time the other day, I heard the unmistakable shrill scream of my little boy. I ran to him and found him drenched in a cold sweat, shaking. He slowly said as buried his head in my shoulder, "Get me, Momma" (which is Mac for 'hold me'). I asked if he had a bad dream and he nodded.

What can one do for a 2-year-old who has a nightmare? Especially when you have no idea what the nightmare is about? He's had these for as long as I can remember.

I did what any mom would do...I held him, I cuddled him and told him I would never let anything bad happen to him.

Why has his life been so hard? Why do things that happened in his life before he was even a year old still affect him to this day? As an adoptive parent, I (like many others) have thought I could love the pain and hurt away...but that's just not possible. It's something we will have to deal with for the rest of his life.
I'm just glad I'm the one who gets to help him in his journey...

1 comment:

Sara said...

I can relate... my 3-soon-to-be-4-year-old has nightmares. The first couple of months we had her home it was like having a newborn, up every two hours with her screams. And for a girl with a HUGE vocabulary and comprehension, she cannot voice what her dreams are about. We're down to just a couple a week now but I fear they'll never go away. I hate the fear I see in her eyes when I go into to hold and soothe her. But you're right... we can't just "love" their pain away and that kills me.


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