At least I hope Chivalry isn't dead. I would agree that it's dying, but in my little corner of the world, I demand that my son will help it live on.
When the kids go through a door I make Mac hold it open for SB. I ask him to defer to her and other girls on some decisions. I make him say "Yes Ma'am" and "No Ma'am." (and Sir. And I also make SB do that, too.)
It something I see less and less of in young males. Is it a regional thing? I don't know. But where I am boys and young men do not hold open doors for ladies. They don't use polite language or allow ladies to go first. They don't offer girls the first or last bite of food or the choice seat or what have you.
This was brought to my attention this week at church. I had a group of 4 and 5 year olds with me - all of which needed to go to the bathroom. The boys muscled their way to the front of the line in front of the girls.
"Nope, boys," I said. "You will wait and let the girls go first." They were astonished. Let the girls go first? Was I crazy?
A parent nearby commented that she had never heard someone make the boys wait for the girls before. Or anything else chivalrous.
"I teach my son to be a gentleman," I responded. "He holds the door, he allows his sister the first pick of strawberries and he lets his girl friends go before him."
What I didn't add, that I should have, is that God also instructs men to love his wife the way Christ loved the church. Christ was the servant of the church - He washed the church's feet. He healed the sick, he prayed for those who needed it. Christ was the original Gentleman. And the church was his bride. I want my son to know that he is to serve his bride (and all women) the way Christ served His bride - the church.
Do he always do so obligingly? No. He complains. But I'm teaching him to be a gentleman the way God designed it and that's worth all the complaints in the world. One day his wife will thank me for it!